Being a parent involves a lot of hard work, dedication, and patience. This is especially true for parents that have kids growing up way too fast. As our children grow older, they can’t help but be conscious on what other people and kids think about them. Believe it or not, being “cool” is very important for our kids during this particular phase. Suddenly, your kids are embarrassed whenever you accompany them in school or in other places. Their image matters to them a lot. Being popular and being able to fit in are the main reasons why they do this.
If your child is one of them, you have to be aware of the fact that it is very tough to be a kid. Listed below are some tips that will guide parents if one day they notice that their kids are too obsessed with being cool.
1. Let them be.
This may seem a little bit odd at first but the best solution to this dilemma is to let our kids be. As adults, we know for a fact that being cool or popular is irrelevant. But you have to understand that your children will think like kids. Back in the days when we were kids, it is likely that we think the same way they do.
Sometimes it is best to stay calm and let our kids be when going through this tough phase in their lives. If you have the budget for it, treat your kid and get him the things he is desperate for. But of course, it is not advisable that you go beyond your budget just to give your kid the schoolyard credibility he hungers for. For as long as your child does not disrespect you and demand you to buy the things he needs to be popular in school, you should not panic because this is just a normal phase in hiss life.
2. Tell them what’s really important.
In the event that your child goes too far and he is starting to lose perspective, help him by simply letting him know the things that really matter. It is never wise to discourage them, instead, tell them that it is their actions and attitude that really makes a difference if they want to feel accepted. Remind them that being kind and friendly is the key to being cool and it is not the clothes or things they have.
3. Take time to talk to them.
Every problem with our kids can be solved by communicating with them. Tell them that they are very fortunate to have a family that feeds them, gives them shelter, and cares for them each and every day. Communicate well with your kid so he does not resent you by not giving him what he likes.